When you find out you’re living with a Karen

So Karens are interesting specimen. They’re pretty unreflective of themselves but centered in “their comfort” and that comfort is usually centered around their white-is-rightness, where the melanated person can at any point become the Black boogeyman who she must stand up to and triumph against. I didn’t realize she was a Karen. Not off jump….

This Pre-Existing Hope

I’m not gonna lie, I have to do chest x-rays every five years or if I ever have a prolonged cough because of having been exposed to TB years ago. I’ve had intensely long heart palpitations in the past and shortness of breath under anxiety. I have pre-existing conditions. I’m playing it safe. I’m 100…

The time I f’ed up:

This one time I broke a mirror on the street trying to get it out of my car. This was amid trying to do a bunch of things to help fix up this house and room I was staying at. Overwhelmed, my brain performed the calculations of getting the house broom and sweeping it into…

A Place where Love can Live

You ever watch those movies where there is a friendship or a romantic relationship forming and the conflict is always that culminating moment where one person suddenly becomes super toxic to the other person, spewing out a perspective on that person that they seemed to have been harboring the entire time on why they actually…

Evolution

Today I’m noticing my evolution. Years ago, I didn’t have a skincare routine. Now, I’m going through my travel bag of TSA approved containers, each container filled with a different natural cleanser or jojoba oil or Shea-coconut oil mixture or essential oil. Years ago, my dorm room made no sense. Now I like to leave…

Advice for Immigrant Citizens who Lose their Passports

Advice for immigrant citizens who lose their passport: if you are an immigrant born outside of the U.S. and you lost your passport – send them your old passport with your application. Do not send them your birth certificate – it will mean nothing to them. Don’t try to send them your parents’ citizenship naturalization…

Boldly going where everyone has gone before…

Ok, I’m here y’all… we about to see … ok. *edit* munching now, a little lukewarm .. ok… .. it tastes faintly like… Popeyes chicken, right, like the big thigh jonts… in a sandwich…but boneless… now just tasted the pickle… so… <bite 5> …so… y’all saying Popeyes thigh is better than Chik-Fil-A? … that’s how…

I see you, Life

I think I’m starting to understand what this Life thing is about… giving you glimpses of your happiness and peace and then the feeling of parts of it being taken away and the test to see if you make it worse or if you solve it. It seems super like “duh” but it’s always easier…

Feral Relationships, Us, & the Media

Hey Music Industry 👋🏾 Listen, I’m just gonna cut right to the chase here. It’s just this thing’s been irking me right in my melanin. You ever notice that any recent song we actually get about love for POC relationships consist of f***ing and fighting? Jy kinda sounds like hell to me with a dope…

On Hotepping African Religions & Black Consciousness

Simpsplaining at its finest” – @nibba 007 My response to this simpsplaining video: To Anyone Confused by this Video: It’s not a thing per se – nobody goes around identifying as a hotep seriously. He’s just referring to bigoted people and perspectives, which could show up in any religion or culture. Particularly he is referring…

The Twist…

It’s been a while. For a while me and you was talking heavy. And I really loved it. We were healing through some stuff. And then… well, what had happened was, well… so I fell in love with this young Xhosa man, and now I’m making plans to move to South Africa. Just kidding, visit….